monk 1-2-3

Ok 1st thing your thinking is look around at other threads and ill find my answer,your right i did find alot of answers but none for the questions im asking...i have a mon/mes and i cant find a decent build for her she does decent healing but sucks at dealing any kind of dmg i know about the 55 monk but to keep your self alive how do you possibly have time to deal dmg .. so my question is can a monk/mes work and what can i do to better her dmg on top of her healing...thank you all for your help

A monk should never deal damage unless you plan on farming, or smiting in PvP

Yep, if you want to deal damage, make a damage dealing character. Monk is a defensive class, almost exclusively, and trying to make it do anything else is like skiing uphill.