As you can tell Witt a Warrior/Monk is not a favorite combo for many players...although it certainly has its uses and such.... For the most part as a warrior you want to Deal damage....so this means
For a team build where you are fighting with heros/hench or other players you want to do as much dmg as you can...unless specifically asked to only be a tank.
You want to run atleast 12 in your primary weapon attribute be it sword/hammer/axe
Most people also think Strength sucks which is probably does since there is no way to actually see what it does.... so dump your points into tactics and use the healing Signet and some stances as was mentioned earlier....
Don't worry about being a monk secondary at this time...it is actually a very viable secondary especially for newer players.....once you ascended and complete certain quests you will have the options to change your secondary as often as you like....(also you can change your attributes at any town/outpost to work with whatever skills you take)
For example i often play as a Warrior/Ranger (currently capping ranger skills) but it doesn't always suit what i want to do so i change my secondary quite often.... Like if i wanted to solo some trolls or some mele type of boss...or what have you ....with the introductions of hero/henchman controls you can actually have a build that is for a specfic boss....fight with hench/hero to boss .....kill everything but boss....send hench/hero away (until greyed) then kill boss and you will have a better chance at a green weapon or whatever....
A great place to look for builds would be
www.guildwiki.org or atleast i think there are still builds there.
Good Luck