I'm sorry if this is kind of a long post, but I too am having a problem breaking into elite areas.
I've tried to prepare myself. I became a legendary skill hunter, read every relevant team build in PvX, and bought the skills I was missing. I read up on the missions on the official wiki, and I still have had only limeted success.
When Kanaxai came up for ZB, I joined up with a group and (after some intial confusion and difficulty) we rolled right on through, in HM, first try. I thought "I'll do DOA next."
Yesterday when the ZB was in the DOA, I showed up and tried to find a full run party. Now, I know there's no room for an ele in a frostway team, so DWG seemed to be my only choice. After half an hour of searching for a group that would accept an ele, I got a group, but I somehow ended up as leader. I informed them that I had never stepped foot into DOA before, and suggested that someone else should lead. Half the group quit on the spot, and I still wound up as leader.
Now for more direct questions:
A: Is there some custom where everyone pays the guy with the cons 1k? Nobody informed me of this before we left, and I had to pay in lockpicks.
B: Am I not understanding how the DWG team build works? From reading the little bit of advice PvX gave me, I understood it like this:
1. Paragon pulls and tanks while everyone else Glaives up. Ranger and SoS lay down spirits.
2. When the monsters are balled up, someone hits em' with spirit rift.
3. "By Ural's Hammer!" then everyone rushes in and spams AOE until everything is dead.
4. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Maybe I should try FOW instead...