Sup,
Im gonna base most of what i say on ur second build as thats what you seem to be thinking of changing to
Wars build:
I'd personally drop SY for I am unstoppable. Your build has a lot of AoE and actuallly u should really be tanking and spanking enemy groups esp. on Vanq/dungeons. Its more effective than cspacing and will teach you to be a better player.
Communing rt:
Because your not taking SY i would go back to your ST rt, drop union, it will die super super super fast esp. with minions. Depending what area your fighting in you can take either both shelter and displacement or just shelter (if its heavy caster dmg that is gonna go >10% every hit). This way with only little micro the rt will keep up shelter most of the time. It also frees up 2 slots and id recommend dulled weapon, binding chains and anguished was lingwah.
SoS rt:
drop spirit boon and spirit rift for mend body and soul and spirit light/recup depending on area. u can spec 11+1 into resto to get beastly heals, still have strong spirits and infinite energy for good spamming. Also this means u only need 1 other hybrid or full healer depending how aggressive you play.
Panic:
Always a good choice, drop either shatter hex, cry frustraion or overload for p drain otherwise they are gonna be super low on energy.
Ineptitude:
Personally id drop for another dom mes with esurge, with displacement spamming on ur ST rt (which u can disable shelter on for heavy melee areas like raptors) u dont really need the melee hate. Secondly heroes dont use it as effectively as they should, thirdly a esurge mes with unnatural and mistrust is just more dmg

also, u can bring a second copy of shatter hex for really really nice balled up spikes.
RoJ:
Good, but makes mobs scatter, if ur gonna micro then its fine, but be careful. Secondly u might as well bring strength of honor and balthazars spirit and micro them on urself. That way u can pump some srs dmg (thats if ur gonna bother taking a RoJ)
Alternative:
FoC Necro - pro dmg, can bring enfeebling blood, shadow of fear and SolS.Will do heavy dmg, some nice melee hate and has 4 empty slots of be a hybrid healer (/Rt) or melee support (SoH, smite hex, smite condition)
N/Rt:
If your bring a FoC with /Rt support then u can bring another with 2 different support hexes. 2x FoC N/Rts will pump similar healing to 1x dedicated N/Rt healer.
If your keeping the RoJ then this is a viable alternative however I would consider changing the elite - Xinraes is strong because its like mini prot spirit.
MM:
I dont run with MM usually (depends on area) cos they are slow. If u wanna take one go right ahead they are strong. With ST u dont really need prots so id take fall back as someone before mentioned.
In short ur builds are fine, any changes beyond this will generally be personal preference!
Gl