Question about a warrior

I just made a warrior monk and got to post and i was wondering which of the skills i should focus on in YOUR opinion, i want to weild a sword but im stuck. I dont know whether to do strength or tactics, healing or smiting, and so on any help with this matter wouold be greatly appreciated, i want the most effective warrior. also how do they catch botter i seen one the other day, how long does it take them to realize they are boting?

strength with healing...

or tactics with smiting..

do not go strength with smiting.. you leave yourself open to no helaing at all...

ok thanks for the info