I've had really poor encounters with monks these few days, and my vacation was suppose to be relaxing

We're on an IDS run, and our bonder who was a Mo/R only bonds the tank. I'm like, no bonds for the rest of us? I hope the healer can catch spikes then! Of course, I get spiked to death, with no heal thrown my way whatsoever. So I stole a peek at what our healer was doing, and I saw her using CONJURE PHANTASM on the enemy. This is the 2nd time we died, except the first time I wasn't observing at her. Of course I'm pissed off, and asked her why she didn't heal. She says shut the eff up because you don't know what I do, I have 6 in healing prayers!! By that time, I've warped out of the map.
Normally I'm a monk myself but lately I've just been stressed out with it. Keeping people alive isn't an easy thing to do, and I don't need to repeat people never seem to appreciate us. Anyone had the same experiences lately? The quality of monks are just blah... and almost all my acquaintances on GW are good monks, which is why it's annoying when I keep grouping with shitty ones when they're busy >_<
/Ragequit.