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Originally Posted by Chilos
Some nerds don't know how to handle women -.-
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They should leave all the handling of women to me. *nods.*
I also agree with the thicker skin comment;
New guild, new friends, play the game if you like to play, however you want to play it.
I'm new to guild wars, but not new to online gaming or the concept of pvp by ANY means, most of the people I play with I hang around with in real life. It's VERY RARE that one of them is a dick to me because they know they gotta answer for it the next time I swing by, and I know where they all live.
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Originally Posted by combatchuck
Your answer to her question should probably be something along the lines of "because you let them."
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That pretty much sums it up in its entirety.
In defense of the 'dicks', however;
A lot of the people you'll have trouble with online DON'T in fact, know you. A lot of the time they tend to be harsh even on female players they don't know because they have no evidence to go on to say they really ARE a female opposed to someone playing a girl to get fairer treatment. They only know you in game, and they're only effected by you in game, and if they're being dragged down, or feel they're being dragged down by any means, they're bound to react. They may even see it as a 'workplace' scenario.
I'll use this example loosely because if someone takes Guild Wars as seriously as their job, there's a whole nother bag of problems.
You work with people, you don't know them outside of work, you don't go out for drinks after//before work or on days off and the person you are at work is very different from who you are outside of work. Understandable, we are ALL that way.
If someone can't cut it at work, nice enough as they may be, you're gonna get fed up with it. You're going to have conflicts, and they're going to end badly (depending on the situation.) And a lot of the time its because you'll start to feel like you're pulling all the weight around and they're not pulling theirs or even trying to lighten your burden. It's perfectly normal.
It really is a shame that your friend reacted to it in a way that she felt she had to quit playing the game all together.
To all those who are budding in 'she can't quit! that means 'he' wins!'; It's not a contest.
If any aspect of anyones life can create this much grief it's got to go. No matter how insignificant it may seem.
It could be as simple as having your coffee with milk instead of cream. The discomfort it can prevent may be life saving.