the life of a monk can be a unappreciated one...
i played 4 different classes extensively: e/r, mo/w/, n/mo, r/mo. although i've never played war, i used to solo tank for pugs in both uw and fow w/ my mo/w when prot bond was still feasbile. i used to run 90 min forgemaster runs hehe, so i have an idea of what tanking/aggroing involves from the tank perspective.
i do the best i can in every group i join, doing what i perceive my job to be, whether it's nuking, healing, protecting, sacrificing, minioning, trapping or interrupting.
however, there's one key difference i've noticed, regardless of whether playing my monk or not. in groups w/ jerks, even small jerks, no one is going to start cursing out the nukers because they might have very poor energy management and suffer from total exhaustion, thus unable to inflict any significant damage while the war must continuously tank as monks keep him alive. most players won't start railing on the ele for not bringing maelstrom (something i used to always carry on my ele pre-aoe patch) for a monk boss they can't kill.
i run a minion master, with 20-30 lvl 18/19 horrors/fiends in the heat of a fierce battle. yet, i've seen bad minions necros (they say they're minion) who can barely keep 4-5 undead up at a time, they're lvl 14 so hardly last long enough to inflict dmg. but i've never seen a war, monk or any other class curse out that necro, call him a "f'ing noob" or heap insult after insult upon him.
sometimes, in places like UW, rangers are more useful setting traps or blinding than standing in front of an aaxte at pt blank ranger, putting darts in the poor mob's left paw. i've seen it happen countless times, the only ones to say anything are generally the monks (the eles, necro and mes are just glad the ranger is the one getting killed, and not themselves!). and while i've seen a few monks go ballistic, the vast majority of monks try to guide the errant player in the right direction in terms of tactics (basically stay back).
wars on the other hand get a bit more abuse as it's generally more obvious when they've made a mistake. but some of them just seem completely blind to their radar, completely unaware of what's going on around them. although i must admit i've done that before when i used to tank in uw/fow, i was so busy trying to stay alive and hold aggro that it's hard to know what's going on w/ the rest of the party if no one says anything or pings for help.
but i won't go into the countless times on SF runs in which the war sits there hacking away at a boss character or gnasher way out where, while several carvers scurry around in glee, carving up your monks faster than your thanksgiving turkey. i just run around on my minion necro trying to heal them best i can w/ heal area, ping for the war to defend our monks, watch the monk heals get continuously interrupted, as my minons and the eles get ground into undead chutney. 9 times out of 10, in these cases the monks get the blame for their own deaths, insufficient heals and the war ditches.
the thing is though, no matter how bad any of these players were, they were probably all doing their best and trying their best at the game. they weren't there to intentionally screw anyone over.
so it's no surprise that monks like me get immensely pissed when they are on the receiving end of all manner of profanities, derogatory insults and blame. i am probably most busy when playing my monk character, generally giving my fingers quite a work out pressing keys and clicking on the party window. a very close second is my minion necro, constantly raising the dead, and sacrificing to keep them up as long as possible. and i used to think i was busy as an ele, having to hit "c"/"t" and casting a spell every 4-5 sec then wait for energy between major offensives!
and at the end of a bad battle against overwhelming odds, when you're at 0 of 60 energy but managed lose aggro and barely alive at 20hp, nearly everyone lies dead around you and you're massaging away that carpal tunnel... and then the abuse begins from the ungrateful dead...
i do my job. i enjoy the challenge of monking in uw. i don't expect stunning accolades. i don't even need to feel appreciated. i know i'm a good monk and i know everyone generally tries their best on a team. but what i don't need is crap that sometimes oozes out a corpse when i'm trying to relax